To Continued the conversation  from last week. Over rated Wedding trends that should be retired .written by By Staff Writer at Fashionbeans.



9. Inviting People to the Shower, But Not the Wedding

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The Chicken Dance
Because no one wants to see women in formal gowns pretending to be chickens. What Can I tell you as “corny”  as it sounds  people like doing  guest  Participation dances especially when they know the steps  and the song. So the Chicken Dance the YMCA  the cupid shuffle  the  Macarena are still so popular and new dance are making the list like Cha cha  slide  the dougie  Whip Na Na and other line dances .  
So here you have it should they do away with these trends? A lot of these have been around for a long time and people get to expecting them and it would feel like you are not at a wedding with out it. Say you did away with them what would you put in there place? You could do with out a few of them . If you did do away with them its still a party. Some wedding have no alcohol so no cash bar some have no dancing  some have no church ceremony its all up to the newly married couple how they want to celebrate there partnership. As a Disc Jockey and mobile entertainer these are the challenges we face. If you have gotten this far share your thoughts do you agree or disagree with this .




                                                 

By Staff Writer at Fashionbeans

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“You’re dressed up for the reception, you throw 300 bucks into an envelope, and you’re ready to go. You get to the bar and the bartender says, “That’ll be $8.00.”
 WHAT?!”
 Now you can view this in two ways the Bride and Groom who are hosting this reception may be on a budget and don’t want the party lush to drink them out of alcohol. Or that they want people to drink responsibility and figure if the guests are paying they wouldn’t over indulge. I have Heard some Wedding are going Alcohol free other then a toast to the bride and groom or wine  with dinner there was no other alcohol served  or completely dry. 

For those who have never seen it at a wedding it’s a table where the bride and groom sit to have there first meal as husband and wife.  To be honest I my self have never been to a wedding with a sweet heart table. Most of the wedding I have attend as a guest or a working Disc Jockey  always had  the wedding party seated at a head table.
“We’re not sure who is more uncomfortable with the Sweet Heart table: the couple whose 200 guests are watching their every move or those said guests painfully trying not to stare at the groom picking the arugula out of his teeth.” Again this is Bride and Grooms choice maybe they want to eat alone as a couple. There first meal as husband and wife. The newlyweds should have the opportunity to mingle and celebrate together with their guests, instead of being like china dolls on a shelf. It’s so much more fun for everyone
​It could be a regional  theme here.

 
So, Your Planning a Party .

So, you have the task of planning a party if it’s a house party or a Stag and Doe Party or a Birthday Party Where do you begin etc. Please note this is a basic party list that will briefly go over the steps on getting starting.  







First Step.   Before you event start doing anything Create a check list.


Your Check list will determine you course of action.
Who is the party for? (business, family, friends)
What's the reason for the party? (theme, birthday, special occasion)
When is the party?
Where is the party going to be?
How many people are you inviting?
What type of party is it? (brunch, lunch, dinner, hors d'oeuvres,    dessert, buffet, sit-down meal)


Second Step  You have put everything down on paper  and determined the Who, What, When, Where and How your next task is to figure out what task should go first.

Make list of people to invite.
Mark the date on your calendar.
Send invitations (by mail, e-mail, or phone).
Plan the menu, including the beverages.
Make shopping list (food, paper goods, decorations).
Plan cooking schedule: Determine what can be made ahead and frozen, day before, and that day, and what you are buying already prepared.
Make list of equipment needed (rental chairs and table).
Plan the layout of the rooms. (Make sure all the food tables are not right on top of each other to ensure smooth flow for people to mingle.)
Plan music.
Plan lighting.
Buy or make a centerpiece or other decorations.
Check your stock of cleaning supplies for before and after the party.
Make sure you have all the platters and serving pieces you'll need.


Please Note this list is a generic one. Some items on the list my not apply to all parties but to most parties.  
Hope you found this list helpful in you planning search



                                                               

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 An Article  by By Gabriela Barkho. Washington Post. Part 2 of this article  Why Millenials are putting off marriage.
We continued the article by exploring.  
Shaky finances can keep millennials from tying the knot, even into their 30s. James Fay, a 33-year-old who works in advertising says he and his ex never made it down the aisle because they were still establishing themselves professionally. “We didn’t have our careers established to the point where we thought it was smart to have a wedding and settle down and all that.Now that I’m single again, marriage isn’t off the table and my career now is further along, so it’s an easier choice.”

It’s not all bad news, economically. For women, marriage is less of a financial necessity. As I read further there was a part of the article that backed this up  According to Andrew Zuppann, assistant professor of economics at the University of Houston. “There a couple of reasons why people choose to get married,”“One is to have two people in the household to share the housework and finances. A big change between 2016 and 1950 is that a lot less people rely on this and have opportunities to afford to be on their own.”
We’re also better able to delay parenthood. “Contraceptives and abortion are letting women put off pregnancy and marriage longer,” Zuppann said. “In general, the reasons why marriage age is much later now are: birth control, technology, abortion, changes in female pay and household technology, like appliances.”

If Video killed the Radio star are Dating App Killing the institute of Marriage ....

what about the effect of Internet dating?15-percent-of-american-adults-have-used-online-dating-sites-or-mobile-dating-apps/" According to the Pew Research Center 15 percent of Americans use dating apps these days, a threefold increase for young people since 2013. Surely the rise of “hookup culture” is contributing to the number of singles who prefer perpetual use of Tinder and OkCupid, among others, to settling down with a long-term partner.where-are-all-the-bisexual-men/" Where are all the bisexual men?] 
“The dating culture has changed. There’s been a fundamental shift in the way people meet and find romance. Or even the way people in relationships communicate, due to technology,” says Klinenberg, who stressed that dating apps don’t keep people single forever, but that “they can keep you very busy when you’re single.”
“People who are on the fence are probably being swayed to delay marriage or settling down due to dating apps,” Has dating in the New Millennia changed so much why people marry or develop relationships?

Remember James Fay?  The 33 year old advertising Professional who was trying to establish him self professionally? Well according to fay who has recently downloaded Tinder and Bumble to get back in the game. “Dating apps are the thing that single people have been waiting for since the dawn of time.”
And then there are those who aren’t just delaying marriage; they’re not interested in it at all.Holly Dembinski, who’s 28, says that after years of pursuing different relationships, being indefinitely single means “you’re choosing happiness.”
Klinenberg agrees. “People don’t see marriage as necessary for a good life,” he says. “There used to be one clear path to happiness, with strong moral expectations and having children. Now there are all kinds of legitimate choices.”
“I’ve dated people because I just enjoyed dating them during that time. I knew that I wasn’t gonna marry them, necessarily,” Dembinski says. “I think realizing that you don’t need to have an endgame, that there isn’t a bottom line, per se, is important. There isn’t a goal to pertain to be happy, it’s finding happiness in the present.

Do you agree or disagree with this article.Is the institution of Marriage on the endanger list. As a Wedding Disc Jockey it make me think  and rethink ............

​1) The Personal touch 

 DJ/MC Entertainer  Can  help you plan your ceremony and/or reception agenda, with a timeline of events.  They  can help you select the traditional events that fit your style and then organize them into a script that will keep your celebration moving along .

2)  Creative Involvement 
1) The Personal touch 

providing you with ideas that are designed to make guests feel more involved throughout your celebration and may also include the development of ideas that have been custom crafted for your unique situation.

3) Event Direction 

keeping your agenda on track while keeping your guests entertained is a fine art includes double checking the important details behind the scenes (i.e. Making sure the cake knife is at the cake table.) communicating with your reception team members (i.e the caterer, the photographer, the videographer, etc. before moving on to the next activity.


4) Well Spoken Master of Ceremony 

utilize their proven skills at public speaking, along with any additional entertainment training and/or experience they may have, to communicate with your guests in a manner that captures their attention, keeps them properly informed and encourages them to have an enjoyable time.


5) Music Programming 

playing just the right songs in just the right sequence to create a mood, a feeling, a memory, or even a dance floor filled with guests dancing at your reception. That includes the following: a wide knowledge of various music genres, confidently knowing the proper use of audio mixing equipment, understanding how the beats per minute in a given song can build or decrease energy, and staying informed about the best songs from every era for dancing. 


6) Appropriate Presentation 

includes making sure that the entertainment ( DJ/MC,) is dressed in a manner that is fitting for your celebration. If your reception’s dress code will be very formal, then a suit . If your reception’s dress code is a casual Hawaiian theme, then khakis and a Hawaiian shirt might be better. But this should also include the presentation of the entertainment’s PA equipment, control booth, and/or stage area.


7) Quality Amplification 


includes providing any and all professional grade PA support equipment necessary to ensure that your guests will not miss a single important announcement, formal toast, or even your vows during your ceremony. This will also include being able to create enough volume for the dancing near the dance floor, while also being able to maintain levels that allow for comfortable conversation during the meal